They've been together for around 3 years and he was madly in love with her. She wanted to break up, so he didn't let her go for very long. Since then 2 years passed and during this time he felt so heartbroken (still had feelings) that he didn't want any more relationships.
I know in spring he showed her pic to our common friend and said that's the girl he likes and talks to on whatsapp.
We started as friends with benefits in the end of September and somehow developed feelings for each other. We've now been officially together for 2 months. He says he doesn't love me yet and as soon as he does he will change FB status (right now he doesn't want, and only I have "dating" status). He also says he's not totally obsessed with me, but the feelings he has for me are already strong for him. I, on the other hand, feel I like him more.
I know they still talk while living in different countries and not seeing each other (only when he is back home once in half a year). She knows we hang out, but not that we're dating. He promised to say it (not sure if he will). His friends and parents know about me though. When I asked him to stop talking to her, he got mad and say I can't tell him what to do. That they grew up together and are adequate people so they now talk (not often but still). He will still talk to her no matter what I say, but promised to talk less.
I feel jealous. What should I do to change the situation? He had strong feelings for her that he doesn't have for me yet. He says he needs more time to get used to having a gf emotionally. Please help!
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You can't ask him to stop talking to his friend. They grew up together. They are friends. Don't worry about that he doesn't like love her anymore. At least from what you said. She broke his heart and he just doesn't want the same thing to happen with you. So that is what he meant by having to get used to girlfriend emotionally. Just wait he'll come around.0