I think this notion is rather dumb because no one would just not go for someone because they're nice. That makes no sense to me and I've never understood why anyone would ever actually believe that. Nice guys do NOT finish last. If you don't speak up about your feelings, you might not get the girl.. doesn't mean you finished last because you're a nice guy. Maybe there are things the girl really doesn't like about you.. maybe you have nothing in common.. maybe that girl is really just a huge bitch... none of these things in any way mean that nice guys finish last... so why is this theory so popular?
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It's not a saying restricted to dating. It's a saying that implies you will never be able to get what you want by being kind and considerate. Always being nice to people is appreciated but this saying implies we should think about what we want and our own ambitions at least to a point, choosing success over kindness when the two conflict. A typical example of people who take this to the extreme are corporate psychopaths/business executives. Many people balance being nice vs ambitious but those who are too afraid to hurt anyone ever and go after what they want are said to finish last. And in the context of dating, the guy that does nothing but smother women with niceness is believed to "finish last." That said, I believe ultimately it's a destructive saying to perpetuate in all contexts, even if it actually applies to some extent. It's just not a healthy phrase to have swimming around in one's head. People have a habit of regurgitating sayings as simplistic solutions to life's problems rather than apply their raw intellect to the world.1