I would say that you need to find a balance, and let him know you want balance: being submissive doesn't (and should not) mean you have to surrender your ability to decide and take care of yourself. If he likes to be the leader, allow him to lead - but only if you feel comfortable with doing so. Make sure you keep an open line of communication and don't allow him to overshadow you or control you. I'd sit down with him and explain your concerns to him. In all honesty, I feel it's a bit sexist for a man to ask a woman to be submissive in a relationship, and it could potentially be very unhealthy - that's just me. Talk to him and try to get a grasp on what he means and make sure he knows what your true personality is before you make your decision.
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I believe you should things that make you happy and comfortable. You might wanna negotiate a middle ground. I would hate be completely submissive to be honest.
If you're strong and independent, how about answering the question yourself?
Submissive behavior in the sack can vary but if he's wanting to toss you around in an unsafe way that makes you feel uncomfortable then obviously don't go for it but if you discuss it and it's not a hitting rough fuck fest he wants more of a position change on top kind of dominance then you can weigh if you want to play this role out for him in the bedroom or on the kitchen sink... Then you are just playing a role... Acting won't put you in a position to be in any danger of sacrificing your independent nature... STTA...
I think the optimal solution is analyzing the situation after stepping back from all the gender-centric partly sexist type of perspective and look at things the way they are for what they are, rather than "power play" and "independence" and "submission" and all these nonsensical buzzwords. What does he want you to do? Are you okay with it, or is that not what you want? That is the real question.
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He wants you to be submissive in the entire relationship? Not just in a kindof sex roleplay thing?
If so i think that if you really are strong and independent you would not feel good in the relationship if you had to act submisive.Wow. Umm. How did he ask? What was exactly wht he saidandthe circustances.
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