Up until a week ago things were going well with this dude I met last October. The last time we met up, we spent 90% of the time laughing and we were flirting more than usual. Every so often we would look over at each other and it's felt like there was definitely a spark. Its was the most fun I've had in a long time.
I find it hard to show how I feel or let guys I know I'm interested.. I say things in a hope it will be understood and its often misinterpreted. I'm shy and awkward at times so that doesn't help either.
In the past guys have thought they have been friendzoned or I'm not interested when that hasn't been the case. This guy has been acting a little distant and I'm not sure why. I'm thinking to stop assuming why, call him up and ask why things have changed without sounding needy you could say. I genuinely want to know if it's down to my actions again. I do really like him and it seems a shame to not get closure.
Do you think this is a good idea?
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If your messages get conflicted then yes he could very well feel like he is just seen as a friend. Many people have a hard time being straight with each other because it makes them feel vulnerable.
My advice is to be as clear as possible. If you're having trouble don't do it in an "ad hoc" style. Write down on paper the clearest message you can and have it in front of you when you call him.
Be sure to convey that message - this way without a doubt you can send your thoughts clearly to him :).
Even something like "I really enjoyed our time together, you're a great guy and I'd like to see you again"
His reaction will make clear how he feels.0
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