I went on a few dates with a guy I see almost daily. When I see him, he makes me smile no matter what he's doing, he's really sweet, helps me whenever I need him, is a gentleman and all that and at the first few dates I had butterflies when I see him or when he puts his hand on my shoulder or back or something. I went on a third date yesterday but I don't feel the butterflies so much anymore. We had our first kiss and I enjoyed it very much, it just felt right. But I always thought that, to know you're into someone, you had to feel butterflies. I'm looking forward to seeing him, can't wait to steal a kiss or two tomorrow but I overthink everything so my head wins from my heart and when my head thinks "you don't have butterflies so you're not falling for him" my heart will think that too... I'm sorry if this sounds weird or anything but I'm not that familiar with love and dating, haha, so if you have some advice, that would be very much appreciated!
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I don't think the butterflies are necessary, however I know that in my previous relationships, I did not feel butterflies, but thought I was in love. Come to find out, the feelings that I had for those men, or should I say my last relationship in particular, were not true love. I had so desperately wanted to be in loved that I falsely identified lust and the thought of being in love for actual love. Now that I have met a man whom I am truly in love with, I can tell the difference. The feelings I have for this man are much deeper, I feel it at every level- emotionally, mentally, physically and even spiritually. When I am with him, I feel an intense energy, even when we are not physically touching, I feel heat radiating between us and when we do touch, even when it is just our hands brushing against each other, I get sparks and butterflies every time. I have never felt this or had this reaction with anyone else. So, do I think it is necessary? No. However, in my experience it was the only time I have ever felt that sensation.1