So, as shocking as it may sound, after 4 relationships, and with 19 years of age, this Thursday I'll be having the first date of my life, first REAL date.
We're just gonna grab some coffee, get to know each other better, and see what happens. But, even though it's more of a casual date, I'm still nervous.
I don't wanna mess it all up and waste this opportunity, so please, give me some advice, some tips on what to do, how to act, what to say, how to dress... I know I have to be confident, relaxed and make eye contact, but any other tips from those more experienced in dates?
Thanks so much in advance!!
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Oh man, I have been there :)
For me, I was 16 with no experience at all. We went to see a movie, which is a terrible place for a first date obviously.
Anyway, there is only a few things you need to keep in mind. First of all, remember that there are 2 people going on this date, you and her. It is not solely your 'job' to keep the conversation going. If there would be a silence, it is as much as her fault as it is yours. Do not be afraid of these silences, it just happens :)
How to act/what to say.
Do not focus on what you're supposed to be doing. Do not think about how many times you should have eycontact of something like that. Try to let that go and just focus on the talking. I used to think of a number of "backup" questions in case I wouldn't know what to say. Funnily enough, I always only get to use one to break the ice and then the conversation kinda carries itself. Start with something like "How was your day until now?". It is nice, casual and gets her an easy way to start telling you about stuff she's been doing. She too is wrecking her brain trying to think of stuff to talk about! She agreed to go for a coffee with you. She is interested in YOU, my friend! Chances are she is also hoping she won't mess this up!
When you're going to order the coffee, ask her what she's having and order for the both of you (and pay obviously). The guy paying for the girl is perhaps a bit old-fashioned, but in my experiences, most girls really like the gesture and it makes it even more obvious that this really is a date.
Dress casually your best. Does that sounds weird? Let me explain.
Make yourself look the best you can without throwing on a suit is the main idea. Shave, shower, fix your hair (don't overdo it) and throw on something of your everyday clothes which you think you look best in. The main idea is to make yourself feel comfortable. She will notice that you are confident about how you look, which is a good thing.
I hope this helped you! Feel free to ask more :)1