So this guy I'm extremely into, and he's crazy about me, found out about some sexually referenced messages that I discussed with a good friend of his. I've known this guys friend for a few years now and our relationship has always been close (but strictly platonic). Anything we would discuss or talk about was innocent or in a purely joking manner (he also doesn't live in the same city as us). The guy I'm into and myself, have had a thing for each other for awhile but just started getting serious and intimate about 3 months ago but we never officially we're considered a couple or dating. I haven't been sexually explicit with anyone in those months (except the guy I'm into) and so it was a lapse of judgement and mistake on my part to message his friend jokingly. However his good friend has messaged me in that way in the past himself. his friends supplied him with this information and his close friend supplied screenshots of what was said (leaving out things that he said in return), basically throwing me under the bus. He was hurt and upset (which I completely understand) but would not let me explain myself and the situation or how I felt. Accusing me of wanting his friend even after I told him otherwise and that I only truly wanted him and cared about him and would completely stop talking to his friend if it helped our developing relationship. He then completely blocked me out of his life. I've been distraught over losing him and not talking to him because i truly care about this guy and picture a happy loving life with him. I've discussed the situation with a couple girlfriends who have all told me that he was completely out of line and that what I did is something that could be forgiven especially seeing as we weren't "officially" dating. One girlfriend even offered to contact him for me to help me fix the situation. I know this makes me sound like a slut or a bad person, but I'm truly loyal and caring in relationships. It was simply poor judgement. What do I do.
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I didn't even read that whole novel of a description. But I read enough, like you said, it was poor judgement. I believe forgiveness is in order.