I met a lot of guys recently from dating sites and such and hey are not truthful about there status and I find out after we been out sometimes. Why do guys do this?
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Those guys are lying because many of them have a different goal than you have, and they know it, and they're trying to get what they want (which if you haven't figured out is SEX). They'll lie because they want to impress you, or make themselves seem more attractive. But the more attractive they are naturally, the more likely they're just after sex, especially when they are young. And most of them know that they're less likely to be successful if they say "not looking for a relationship - just a hot girl to bang a couple of times before I move on to the next one."
That doesn't mean that dating sites can't be a good resource, but you have to be suspicious and you have to TAKE THINGS SLOWLY and spend a LOT of time getting to know the guy. The player types aren't going to like that in most cases - their goal is to hurry up and bang, but know that the "expert" players sometimes see this is a challenge, and will play your "taking it slow" game while they bang easy girls to pass the time.
There ARE guys who are actually trying to find a relationship, though. Most of them are going to be much less aggressive and will be fine with taking things slow. If a relationship is what you want, that's what you have to look for.
The really attractive guys know they can have a relationship anytime they want one, just like really attractive girls know they can have sex anytime they want to, but in both cases, that's not what they want, and they'll use their attractiveness to get what they want.
One thing you need to remember is that you CANNOT change other people, only yourself, so don't deceive yourself into thinking that you can turn a player into a relationship guy - you'll just get burned that way.1