So I've been using dating sites for the past few years and have met over 20 women, but the problem is none of them have ever led to a relationship. Most I've gotten is a hookup or a fling that lasted 2 months and honestly it kinda scares me.
The only girl who likes me romantically, I don't really feel for. She's got a good personality but I'm not physically attracted to her at all. I know that sounds shallow and while I do know appearance isn't everything, you gotta be somewhat physically attractive. I wouldn't date someone just for the sake of dating or to be in a relationship. That'd be pretty desperate.
What usually happens though is I'll go on dates with girls and well hit it off and after the dates they'll be like, thanks for the drinks, dinner, etc, I had a great time and then usually after dates 2-4 I don't hear from them. I realize there's plenty of girls out there but the issue is they keep on flaking. I don't know if the issue is with me like I have some flaw I don't realize that's a huge turnoff, they're multi dating, etc. it scares me because it makes me feel like I'm incompetent of forming a relationship and it's like I'm hopping from girl to girl unintentionally.
Anyone else ever have this problem? The worst part is I get the same results and I don't know what my mistake is. Like the girls will flake without any warning sign.
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I see a major flaw already.
Your main mistake is that you're paying for everything. These women are taking you for a ride, get all the free food and drinks, then get bored and drop you.
STOP PAYING FOR DATES.
There is absolutely no need for you to take these women out and wine & dine them. Any woman that expects to be treated like some princess and have everything paid for her is not a woman you want to get into a relationship with.
Your dates should be minimalistic: meet her at a cafe/coffee shop, buy her tea and a croissant TOPS if you must and spend that time getting to know her, rather than watching her order the most expensive food off the menu.
Some women can be right bitches, using others for their money and guilt tripping men into believing they "have" to pay for EVERYTHING ALWAYS AND FOREVER. This is simply not true and you need to have a closer look at what sort of women you're going after.
The second you close your wallet, your dating spectrum will greatly narrow down, but the likelihood of finding a decent woman will increase.
And to add to this, I have found my boyfriend on a dating website and we've been together for almost 3 years ( anniversary 11 Feb :D ). He offered to meet up during the day and bought me a one pint of beer and we spent hours talking. How much was it, £2 - £3 maybe?
It's all about the person. :p1