My heart hurts, I can't get over this.
Me and this guy met in Nov. We were going on dates, and we had sex. He just he got out of a 7 year relationship a month before. In the beginning he even said "but I'd like to be with you aside from the sex is what you fail to realize" He even said it would be nice to have a girlfriend but he is looking for someone to settle down with. He texted me every day, told me he likes me a lot. We would hang out without having sex. He talked about meeting parents and maybe taking me to his best friend's wedding in May. He always holds my hand. When I was studying at Starbucks one night he came out to see me, no sex. one day he was acting distant and I went crazy texting him 50 times. he told me he was done. we went a week without talking and then we grabbed lunch 2 weeks ago. he paid, and we didn't have sex. The next day I invited him to my new years eve party, and he declined. he then told me he's not looking for a relationship. I asked him if there were feelings and he said "I did have feelings" and he said "Idk what I want and I dont want to lead you on." Then I asked if this was my fault and he said "it definitely isn't you" Then we ended up talking about meeting up to have sex and hang out. Before we met up he seemed hesitant and told me that he doesn’t want me throwing this in his face that all he wanted from me was sex. He also told me he doesn’t want me thinking this is anything more than what it is. We ended up meeting up to have sex and then we went to lunch. During lunch he said “you’re the best." Last week I asked him if he wanted to meet up to have sex and he said "can't have class" then I said "when can you" he said "idk shay in class can't talk" then I asked if he still wanted to have sex in general, and he didn't answer. Hours later I apologized for asking and he said "it's ok babe." it's been 3 weeks, haven't heard from him.
Was I just sex to him?
Did he have any feelings for me?
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You girls, wonder why you get hurt all the time, if you didn't give yourself up for sex so easily, these situations wouldn't happen to you. Sorry to say, its your own fault. why do you go on dates with a guy, and then give him, do you really think that will make him love you.
Its really simple, if you don't want to be played or used, don't be an easy target by giving them sex.
This what you should do when you on a date, get to know them, have fun. decide whether or not you like the person, and then go into relationship. Once in a relationship, wait for a while, before diving into the bedroom.
Going on a date with someone, does not mean the person loves you. Love takes years to develop. If a man really loves you, he will ask you to marry him. Believe actions over words. Words are cheap nowadays.
You have to be stupid, to trust anyone straight away, you have to be your own investigator, and decide whether or not this person is worth having in your life.
Don't invest more than you can afford to lose. While it's important to move forward, you need to take things one step at a time. Don't put so much out there that you'll be emotionally bankrupt if things go south.
Don't beat yourself up. You got through your last experience, you've learned from it, and now it's time to move forward. "You'll move on and be a champion in your next endeavor as you did in your past... Life is not a success-only journey. You are going to get beat up along the way."0