Been dating a girl for a bit (4 months), she told me recently, she's good friends with her ex because they ended things peacefully.
Some people jump to conclusions and assume the worst, im however positive and try not to jump to conclusions or assume the worst
Anyway my question is: i dont think my girl has mentioned to him, that we're dating. I trust this girl, i honestly do. she hasn't given me any reason to doubt her. honestly, i just think the topic of me ever came up in their conversation.
would it be weird/controlling/whatever to casually message him on Facebook and say something like
"Hey buddy how's it going? Listen buddy I have no problem with you and __ being just friends. Just wanted to let you know she's been seeing me now for the past 4 months. Again no hard feelings, just letting you know"
My personal POV is that if I truly was commited to someone, i'd have no problem if I found out my ex was messaged by my partner. After all, whats there to hide?
Or could it be seen as controlling? (even if the girl is committed to me)
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" She hasn't given you a reason to doubt her", you say - she has not told her ex who she is friends with still , that she has a bf of 4 months , that is a reason for doubt. Personally i would be asking why that is. If the " topic " of you hasn't come up in all of this time i would be questioning the reason behind that too.
Don't message her ex, it does come across as controlling, and a little immature. The person you need to talk to is your gf, to ask why you are a secret from her ex. I would be extremely concerned if a bf of 4 months didn't mention me to his ex when he was still friends with her.
When girls are in a relationship , they usually love talking about their bf to their friends.0
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