I been crying for a guy I been seeing for a bit over a month, just started to know him. I've almost bad experience with the dozens of guys I've gone out with. I naturally keep my guard up cuz of my horrible experiences but I still get hurt especially if I like them. This guy is funny & nice, but I have a hard time believing him when he says he likes me. I know he has his own place, so I'm the one to drive out to see him everytime. We haven't gone out on a public date. We go to the market or pick up food which he offers to pay for, I go all the way out there to LA for 35 min without traffic. We eat, watch movies. Yes, we have been intimate a few times & I like him but Im suspicious cuz of my experience. He hasn't taken me out on a public date, he has not driven out to see me even though he said he will & says he really wants to take me out. Once I invited him out with my friends when his car was broken, & he didn't come. When he got his car back, he didn't take me out. I'm not asking to spend money, cuz we can go out for free too. Why can't he drive to see me like he said? Twice he said he made plans, but didn't go through with them. He mentions about meeting my family and me meeting his mother. I really like him, but he gets jealous. I kept my guard up this wk & have not gone to his place. I left txts saying how I feel he's using me even tho he says he wants to go out with me & how he's all talk, I don't believe him,& I'm not driving there this weekend. He calls & txts everyday to talk. He says he really likes me, calls multiple times every day, says he wants to go out with me, eventually meet my family, and does get jealous when I go to a bar, but how do I know he truly likes me?
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I think if he doesn't put any effort into seeing you then he's not that into you. Also why would you want to be with a guy who gets jealous easily? I can tell you that this is usually a good indication he will be a very controlling person. I think you both have issues and it's not likely to result in a happy relationship. You need to learn to get over the past hurts and find things (other than guys) that make you fulfilled and happy. Once you are a happy person then you will have the confidence to pick the right guy and have a great relationship.3