Several of my guy friends have discussed how they would never date a woman that was more intelligent and successful than them because it would make them feel emasculated. They said they want to be the ones to "wear the pants in the relationship". Some have even said they prefer a woman who is not intelligent. What is your take on this? Do intelligent and successful women really scare you?
- Yes, they scare meVote A
- No, they don't scare meVote B
- I'm a woman who wants to see the resultsVote C
- They can sometimes scare/intimidate meVote D
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It can depend in a lot ways. Before I begin explaining, I am not intelligent (if you are taking in education level [bachelor's/master's/phd] into account) and don't consider myself successful due to my near minimum wage job that I'm happy to work in. Personally, I would be scared if your success and intelligence is used against me because of my social economic status in arguments or major decision-making. I appreciate and praise the fact that you are able to be successful and intelligent through various reasons. Though I am not as successful because of my limited opportunities and how I was raised, if I were somehow able to end up marrying an intelligent and successful woman, I don't plan on living lavishly on my spouse's money and become lazy, "lucky" guy. It may be hard to believe what I am saying but it's what I stand by. I'm just a heavy thinker, yet shy.2