I feel like I will never be good enough?

I don't know anymore :/
Me and this guy met in Nov. We were going on dates, and we had sex. He just he got out of a 7 year relationship a month before. In the beginning he even said "but I'd like to be with you aside from the sex is what you fail to realize" He even said it would be nice to have a girlfriend but he is looking for someone to settle down with. He texted me every day, told me he likes me a lot. We would hang out without having sex. He talked about meeting parents and maybe taking me to his best friend's wedding in May. He always holds my hand. When I was studying at Starbucks one night he came out to see me, no sex. one day he was acting distant and I went crazy texting him 50 times. he told me he was done. we went a week without talking and then we grabbed lunch 2 weeks ago. he paid, and we didn't have sex. The next day I invited him to my new years eve party, and he declined. he then told me he's not looking for a relationship. I asked him if there were feelings and he said "I did have feelings" and he said "Idk what I want and I dont want to lead you on." Then I asked if this was my fault and he said "it definitely isn't you" Then we ended up talking about meeting up to have sex and hang out. Before we met up he seemed hesitant and told me that he doesn’t want me throwing this in his face that all he wanted from me was sex. He also told me he doesn’t want me thinking this is anything more than what it is. We ended up meeting up to have sex and then we went to lunch. During lunch he said “you’re the best." Last week I asked him if he wanted to meet up to have sex and he said "can't have class" then I said "when can you" he said "idk shay in class can't talk" then I asked if he still wanted to have sex in general, and he didn't answer. I apologized for asking and he said "it's ok babe." it's been 4 weeks, haven't heard from him.

1. Was I just sex to him or did he actually have feelings for me?
2. Did he want me as his gf and I messed up with 50 texts?


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Most Helpful Girl

  • He's told you exactly how he feels. He told you he's not looking for a relationship. Point blank. He just got out of a 7 year relationship (that is a huge thing) and is probably still figuring himself out.
    He told you he didn't want to lead you on. So in a way he has stated that it would be JUST sex.
    He was straight forward with you, he told you he just wasn't ready.
    I'm sure he did have feelings, but i think he realized that he wasn't ready for a relationship after his breakup.
    That's not your fault, you didn't mess anything up. But you need to understand that this is just a case of bad timing, and move on.

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What Guys Said 1

  • 1. Just sex. 2. No.

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What Girls Said 1

  • It seems he is ignoring you. Move on. Don't text him unless he texts you again.

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