Before, I was obsessed with romance and all and I do still want to fall in love some day, but now I am thinking that while I am young (under 25 or so), it would be better to sleep around and have fun.
Humans seem to neither be polygamous and monogamous. We are undecided. Innately we want to sleep around like animals AND be in love. Now society doesn't let us do this, but the next best way to satisfy both needs seems to be to sleep around and have casual relationships while you're young and later on settle down.
Many relationships before 25 don't even last because the brain is developing until around then.
Committed relationships sound great, but can take a huge toll on one's freedom. I want to maintain mobility to travel, move around, and explore myself and not be hindered by a romantic relationship.
A combination of the above is why GIGS/cheating becomes more tempting. I really don't want to end up cheating or fall in the situation of having to end a great relationship in the future because of not having had my experiences and unanswered curiosities.
This is why I am thinking that until my mid-twenties or so, I might do better to date/sleep around when given the opportunities and flourish in my freedom until then and then worry about finding love. This also theoretically satisfies both biological needs as I was talking about before.
The only thing I am worried about is later on when I actually look for love, women don't want me because I have slept around too much, however.
What do you think?
Most Helpful Girl
Do what you want, it isn't a big deal, some people sleep around, some only sleep with one person their entire lives, we're all different.
Just know that when you decide you're ready to settle down, you may be rejected by some girls because you slept around to much for their morals. Some girls won't mind, but some will.
Personally, I think when you're young you don't need to decide anything, just go with the flow and see what happens with different people. If you decide to sleep with all different people, do that, if you meet somebody and fall in love, go with it, if you date lots of people but don't sleep with lots of people, do that. Just as long as you're honest and you aren't hurt or don't hurt others in the process.2
Most Helpful Guy
You got it right dude. Great thinking, very mature and responsible. Research polyamory, it might be for you. And most importantly, always be honest, communicative, respectful, and true to yourself.0