So my best friend is a girl and we've known each other for about 2.5 years now. We've become super close and see each other almost everyday. We talk on the phone everyday and we're practically inseparable. She's 4 years older than me, 30 & I'm 26, and when we first met I told her I liked her but she said, "we should just be friends, you're too young for me".
I was able to move on, but now that we hang out so much, and she's so beautiful, I have really fallen in love with her. We get along super well, and her family loves me. I was invited to go to her mom's birthday dinner, and it's like I'm the boyfriend and part of the family.
However, when my friend went to the bathroom, her mom was saying how we need to go out more, and that I could find girls, etc. I know her parents probably encourage her to date me, because we're pretty much perfect for each other.
Anyways, I want to get to the next level with my friend, but for one, I am worried of ruining our friendship, but at the same time I do want to take this to the next level. I did get jealous the other day when she was texting another guy she met online. I told her that i got jealous and she said, "really? why? your my bff!"
Also, she invited me to dinner, but I was already going out with another girl and i told her i would call her after. However, i get a text asking if i was done and if i wanted to hang out. She thought i was on a date, and kept texting me asking how it is going and where i am, etc. It was almost as if she was jealous.
She even told her mom that I was out with another girl and was telling her about the details. My friend will sometimes link arms with me, or rest her head on my shoulder. Or sometimes she will put her hand on my thigh, sit on my lap. She sometimes will grab and squeeze my hand, when all i wanted was a high five.
And she goes and touches me sometimes that is more than a friendship! like she gets a brain freeze and then goes and grabs me to comfort her.
I don't get it
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Do something like this: "I really feel strongly for you and I can't keep torturing myself over you; would you consider taking our friendship to another level?"
Yes - fantastic. Winner.
No - genuinely, move on. You'll be happier for it in the long run, and she might come back to you later on.
Don't beg, or spurt out all at once that you're madly in love and can't imagine life without her etc. etc.
Whatever you choose to do, good luck! But you're only going to ruin your happiness for yourself if you carry on as you are, sorry to put it that bluntly.0