I accused my boyfriend of cheating and he didn't. How do I fix this?

[Kelley77]

My last 2 relationships I was cheated on. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. I didn't come right out and accuse him. I asked if he was doing anything that would hurt me and that's where it went. I truly know he's not. I don't know what to do or say to fix it now

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I have explained everything to him. He isn't being mean or distant with me. Every once in awhile he make a a comment. I know I hurt him. I don't think he will leave. I just want to make sure he understands that I know I really screwed up and in all reality I trust him more then anyone. I feel like a piece of shit and need to figure out how to show him that and how to show him I do trust him.

[Theguyoverthere]

It is gonna be up to him as to whether or not he should keep seeing you. Perhaps you need to stay single longer and recover from your precious breakups. Relationships need trust and he is giving you his trust but you're not giving him yours. You're being unfair to him.

You must apologize but don't be like the typical girl and try to rationalize your behavior and make it seem like it is ok. You clearly did something wrong and it totally based on your previous relationships.

[Tommy2000]

you need to apologize and communicate what you are telling us to him

tell him directly that you've had bad experienced in the past which caused what happened and that you are really sorry, then you need to do something meaningful and caring for him.

[Tommy2000]

ty for mh :)

[Turtleluv]

It's going to take both of you to work on this. You've admitted you have issues too work through. Now you have to work on them. He also has to have patience and understanding but you CANNOT accuse him.

It's very difficult to do, I know.

[cocominnie]

Explain your situation and make him feel special, make him dinner or do something to show how much you care.

[Yeatts]

Explain yourself and say you are sorry and hope that he doesn't break up with you.

[matheus_mb]

Tell him that you still have issues with what happened in your past relationships, that those things aren't easy to get rid of and apologize. Say you'll trust him entirely from now on.

[aoihewgf]

If you positively didn't accuse then his reaction seems a little too much.

Also, why did you think this now, after a yr? What changed, or what happened that made you question it?

[okeydoke]

That's a shitty thing to say. I'm not sure you can. Clearly you have trust issues that need to be worked out if your relationship is going to progress in a healthy way.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you did what you needed to do. I strongly suggest you keep it up. Honestly if my wife accused me, and saw that she was wrong, id expect her to be on her knees begging for forgiveness. If it happened ever again i would simply leave.

[noohair]

It took me a long time to actually learn from my mistakes.

As long as you learned that a relation requires trust, you will bet better at this relationship thing> Good luck.

[Iron_Man]

Treat him out to a nice dinner and a movie and say your so sorry a lot

[Caliiipacific]

Apologize profusely... then blow him :)

[Destinybae]

no. thats complete submission. no

[Caliiipacific]

Says the 14 yr old who doesn't know shit about actual relationships. There's nothing wrong with being submissive every now and then. Move along kid.

[Kelley77]

Lol he would probably take that for an apology! I'm all for making him happy. So not a submission thing either.