My son has a new girlfriend, he's 20 and she's 16. It makes me uncomfortable. Would it make you uncomfortable?
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It's kind of funny seeing the difference between guys and girls on this one. First of all, make sure you're aware of age of consent laws in your jurisdiction. In many places it is 16, but if it's 17 or 18 and there is any sexual aspect to that relationship, your son could get in some serious trouble.
As I'm sure you realize, four years becomes less of a big deal by the time both people are in their 20s, but the difference between 16 and 20 is a pretty big difference. It's the difference, potentially, between a junior in high school and a junior in college. It's the difference between going to prom and sneaking into bars (unless you're outside of the US, in which case, there would be no sneaking necessary). It's often the difference between sex being a really big deal and sex being a fairly normal part of a relationship. That being said, it's possible that this girl is unusually mature; I knew a few girls in high school who were clearly beyond the maturity levels of the boys around them and needed to be with someone older. That was pretty rare, though. I'd also wonder about the maturity level of your son. If he's okay dating someone who is that much younger, I'd question whether there might be some sort of arrested development in his maturation process.3