So I've recently gotten into a new relationship and everything is going great. my boyfriend and I have so much in common and he treats me really well. We are both very into each other.. however he is still in contact with his ex because she is suicidal and depressed.. she cheated on him after 4 years and tried to threaten suicide if he didn't take her back.. anyway she is also dating someone else.. they have a mutual friend that is having a birthday party this weekend and he was going to invite me to.. since finding out she is going he doesn't want to take me because she might make a scene and she won't take the guy she is seeing if my boyfriend goes.. he said he feels torn because he doesn't want to upset me but it's his good friend.. i don't know how I should be handle this or feel. it does kinda upset me but I don't want to tell him not to go.
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This is a terrible situation to be in, I have been in your situation not to the exact details, but I felt hurt. I tried to be understanding but over all she's his past and you're his present, if she even remotely cares about him and wants him to be happy, she would respect the fact that you are his girlfriend and wouldn't care if you came. There may be a bit a tension but you guys are adults, and if he's worried that she will make a scene perhaps she isn't over him, it's one thing to think something and another to act upon it. What she decides to do and what your boyfriend decides to do is completely different whether she takes her boyfriend or not, it should affect whether he brings you. He could realistically have both, please his friend and bring you- but also it's up to you if you want to go and if you are mentally prepared to deal with the worst.1