Me and this guy have been talking for about two months. He's been busy working a turnaround, his father has terminal cancer and he's not doing good, and he has a two year old daughter. I am falling for him. He's already told me that he's interested in me and that he likes me a lot.
He quit talking to me for about two days and I texted him to find out what was going on. He just told me his dad is getting worse off. Then he told me he can't get into a relationship right now because he has too much going on.
We got into a little bit of a heated argument tonight and the way the conversation started off was by him saying "move on." I about lost it. I only want him. And I understand right now that is nearly impossible. But I stressed that I will take what I can get right now. He said that wouldn't be fair to me. And deep down, I want to believe him but I also know we feel the same about each other and I just want him! The conversation ended with him saying "just please give me some time to think about all of this. Because I don't know of I can do this." It just sucks cause I know how he feels. Life is just happening and causing us to not be able to be together right now. Do you think I have any hope of him saying anything positive in my favor?
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This guy is trying to keep it together:
-for himself, as his father enters his final days
-for his daughter, who is losing her grandfather and also seeing her daddy upset
-to keep his job (turnaround meaning oil industry?)
-for his family, again with this very hard time
You have unfortunately come at the worst possible time. He can't be dealing with all the wonderful feelings of a new woman in his life one moment and dealing with all this stress and shit and pain the next. He knows that as much as he'd love to try, it wouldn't end well and he likes you enough to be honest and doesn't want you to wait around because he doesn't know when he'll come out the other side of this (even after his dad passes, it could well be a long road until he feels ready).
He's probably just as frustrated as you that it can't happen right now, that if he'd met you six months ago or six months from now then it could have been so good. Getting angry at him about this is the absolute worst thing you could have done. He has his priorities and a girl he's messaging couldn't be top of the list or he'd be a lousy guy in all the aspects I listed above.0