My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 weeks now. I just found out that she didn't really break up with her old ex. They never see each other, and they talk on Facebook. I know he contemplated suicide last time they broke up, and she told me that the only reason she told him she loves him is so that he wouldn't kill himself and that she thought he would eventually break up with her due to them not talking much. Because she was spending all of her time with me. The ex even contacted me and it seems like he just spams her Facebook and she only replies like once a day. I've seen his Facebook and i know that for a fact. (He gave me his login) My girlfriend says she really wants me and that it is nothing to worry about. She said she didn't want him to hurt himself or hurt his feelings. I watched her tell him on Facebook that its over, because i made her do it. Now he's blocked.
Bull shit? Or no?
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What? She intended to do that for how long? o. o It wouldn't work forever.
She can't do nothing for him if she doesn't love him. She is sacrificing herself and you, because of him. He shouldn't be so dependent on her.
Maybe she's telling the truth and just feels guilty and with a big responsibility if something bad happens to him.
I think it's good that she blocked him now. It's better to put a brake on her ex NOW and make him understand that he can't stay with her. I'm sure he don't want her to stay with him out of pity. However, I think she should have a final convo with him, saying that she DON'T love him and that she will not be happy with him.
In your situation: I wouldn't break up with her, she deserves a vote of confidence (at least). Give it to her.
Talk with your girlfriend and say that If she's worried, maybe she should ask to his friends/family to support him. And ask her to NEVER say those things again.
After that, If she gives you more reasons to distrust you, so then yes, you should act.0
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