So whenever I meet a guy I like, things are going great. We are messaging, meeting up, getting close, flirting, he pursues, little games to keep the chase, we start sharing more personal things etc. Then, whenever it can take a turn, they don't want to commit. I'm getting tired of this. They aren't even assholes, they just don't want to commit and it makes me wonder how my friends get guys so easily (some even have players) to commit to them and take the relationship further. Mine crash and die every single time. I don't even push for anything but I do make it clear that I don't mess around and they are fine with it. So we date and see and when things get real, I ask so what do you want from this? I don't even put pressure and they always say it isn't what they wanted. These are the ones I got reasonable close to, lets not start on the less serious ones...
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My gut is you're giving these guys too long and not pushing enough.
Not that they would have committed if you had.
It's just that trying to coax commitmentphobes into taking the FIRST step in a relationship is a complete waste of time.
Date guys who want a girlfriend, and throw the rest back in the pond ASAP, no matter how much you may find each other fun and attractive.
Beyond that, guys your age are MUCH more likely to be dating multiple women if they're in demand. That's fine, you could be dating multiple guys too. But if they're going on past date 3 and can't decide, move on.0
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