I am dating a man who has everything I've ever wanted. Good looking, intelligent, 1 year older than me, has a company that pays very well, we have tons of similar interests and also common friends, we can talk for hours he is always great company.
We went on a few dates during fall but I never was able to kiss or touch him because I just didn't feel sexually attracted.
We stopped talking and just recently he contacted me again. I agreed to see him again and it was still very fun. He is very direct and often tells me he likes me and compliments a lot and I always feel a little uncomfortable.
But at the same time he is the perfect match for me. So I would really love to be attracted by him.
Tonight he took me out for dinner and we stayed 5 hours talking at the restaurant. So after our date we kissed. And I felt nothing. It was uncomfortable and I didn't feel any attraction.
I do wish it could work out but I don't feel it. Do you think attraction can come over time?
Any similar stories to share?
the kiss turned me off, it was bad
is there still hope? i like everything about him
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He sounds like more of a really close child hood friend than a boyfriend/love.
That, or what you think you're feeling is just an illusion because sexual attraction should be one of the first things you feel/notice when you fall for someone.
Although, if you are willing to commit, which sounds very likely, it will develop, but from my perspective, very very very slowly.
Unless, ya' Love has lived a very well-balanced life meaning, "stress-free",
Then yes, very, very, slow.
( Certain stress overcomes one's mind, impacts performance in certain areas)
( thought I'd include it, in case you'd like to study. ;P )