I know it's none of my business, but why are you single? I'm single by choice. I'm so happy and comfortable with my life right now, all I need are friends and family :)
Why are you single?
What Guys Said 131
Women with few exception are more trouble then they are worth. So if I meet a cool chick who doesn't ruin my good time then im for it.9
1) I'm a geeky guy.
2) I'm an entrepreneur, and I work alone most of the time. This cuts down on a lot of chances to meet women - When I DO get out, I'm usually laser focused on the work - I'm not in the mood to hit on anyone.
2b) I'm an artist, and not a lot of women understand or appreciate artists in my area (unless they're famous).
3) I'm more introverted in a lot of ways.
4) I don't have the looks (yet?).
5) The girls I'm into in several aspects also happen to be girls who have those "personal deal breakers" in other ways. It's not being "picky" (maybe it is these days, but if the deal breakers are considered "being picky" then I'm ok with being picky)
6) Most of the women in my area are married, and have been for a long time; if not, they're usually in serious long time relationships.
7) Many of the women I know drop off the face of the planet when they get a new boyfriend. So, it's hard to keep close relationships with the women I know, and next to impossible to meet their friends.
I think that sums up most of it.1
Becaus I'm working on myself. Leaning to love myself before loving someone else
lol jk. Its because I can't get a woman to look at me 'that way'for more than have a second
Actually truth is that I'm lazy to ask out girls right now. My ego is kinda fragile. I have anxiety and anxiety + liking someone is always a roller coaster. I'm got a date on Friday though. you'd laugh if i told you ho i got it4
(1.) The girl I'm talking to is 5 hours away, and we aren't 100% that we're into each other yet.
(2.) I'm kinda busy with school at the moment.
(3.) Freshman 15
(4.) I still need like another 2 years before I actually look more like a man and less like a rat.
(5.) I'm not very sociable and have only a small group of friends that are women.8
Firstly, I'm focusing on my career so I haven't really attempted to date for over 4 years. I personally feel that having a girlfriend at this point would be more of a distraction than an asset.
Secondly, I have this severe inferiority complex and a morbid fear of rejection, so I can never approach a woman. I'm stuck with the thought that if I even consider asking a woman out, I'll be setting myself up for rejection because I'm just a common man who isn't 'good enough' for most women. So unless women approach me themselves (which is extremely are), I suppose I'll have to remain single forever (which I don't really mind too much).1
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The optimistic, professional reason: I've got school and career building to worry about and a relationship would probably be a distraction.
The I'm mysterious and cool reason: I don't meet many girls that I find interesting, I'm not a big fan of vapid people or shallow conversations.
The actual reason: I'm an introvert and anti social; I have a lot of difficulties talking to new people, let alone trying to interpret social cues and try to figure out what they're saying with body language. I am utterly incapable of determining whether a girl's interested in me or not until she says so and it goes without saying that I have difficulties interpreting my emotions and expressing them. Plus, I'm not great at maintaining relationships; I'm absent minded and I forget about people and things all the time. The world's probably a better place as long as I'm alone.3
Because I don't ask anyone out, and right now there is no reason to. It would be nice but just maintaining my friendships is a challenge right now. Forget a girlfriend with needs to fulfill and the ability to rip my heart to shreds. That's dangerous business.1
I'm single because I'm a idiot and keep fucking myself over.
I'll get girls attention a lot and I don't have problems socially talking to them or anything like that, but even if I really like them, whenever something is starting or turning into something more I just completely pussy out and pull out from that entire deal. I don't know why but it happens every time and I don't know how to stop myself from getting "scared " and abandoning it1
I've been trying to wait for the right woman, one who accepts or preferably shares my worldview and goals in life. That's kind of tough to do though, since I plan on working in developing countries without a lot of modern conveniences and for comparatively little pay. (I am a corn geneticist who wants to breed better varieties for subsistence growers in poor countries. Not exactly a glamorous life.)
Also, most of the women who have shown interest in me in the past have been selfish and only wanted me for novelty or for sex. Yes, I am a "manly man", and, yes, I do have a high libido, but I also have this thing called a heart, and I don't like to have it ripped out and stomped on.
Plus, I am a traditional guy who values marriage a lot, and I haven't found anyone who is wife material. Aside from leech-marriages, good luck finding a lady who actually wants to marry a man nowadays.
Lastly, I guess, is the fact that I just don't like women from industrialized cultures much. Minus obvious physical differences, they're basically less aggressive, more chatty men. Do not want...1
A perfect question.
Earlier in my mid-high-school times I've been single by fate.
Now it's 50% fate and 50% choice, that I am single. I don't have time and money to spend on a GF. In my locals, there are only a bunch of careless randoms in my age range. I value, what I have and even much more, when I never had it before and always wanted it.
I've been in such almighty trouble (generally speaking), that I deny any more. And you know, that women do require some more, some less amount of trouble. I find it not worth it.
I separated myself about the thoughts of getting a GF. That resulted me into the inability of caring any less. But at least I can keep my freedom.
But let's not forget about a positive thing: Any unexpected miracle can happen and make changes.2
I'm single because I'm not fortunate enough. I've still never had a girlfriend. Most young girls these days only want money and someone to spoil them.
It's not my fault.1
I learned that girls don't like me for me. They have such high standards that I have to meet by having to have to be interesting all the time. I had plenty of girls that liked me but I didn't like them for the reason I do not know.
I guess it's because I have to be in the so called "friend-zone" before I actually start liking someone and by then every girl will put you in the friend-zone. Then again I only ever liked 3 girls in my life. Each time it took me about 5-7 months when I realized that I liked her. I'm 28 and I've been single my whole life.
I have a high sense of loyalty and I had a plenty of reason why I like a girl. The first one was one of those "just because" deal so I don't know if I should really count that. But the second and third girl I liked is because they both delivered to me like I'm a person with interests, enjoyment, and I don't know what they did compared to other girls who also do the same thing to me which is to make me feel valuable.
I refuse to have sex with someone I do not care about no matter how visually attractive they may be. Because I said that and I have a feeling that there will be girls who will be upvoting my opinion because of what I just wrote. I am very conflicted on what they also say because when I hear people say that if I like someone and if I want that person to like me back the same way "I have to be myself" which I learned is the most BS thing you can tell someone and I'm sure many guys would agree (at least initially).
This whole first world society of standards where the guy has to do EVERYTHING and continue with it their entire life while the girl just sits there looking pretty/beautiful and easily just say ok you did all this for me, but I don't care for you anymore even though the guy that did that for reason that wasn't primarily for sexual reason but more of wanting you because that girl probably did or say something that attracted him which is what even sex can not offer.0
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I'm Single cause i had 2 bad relationships i guess i got trust issues5
Part of it is by choice part of it isn't. There's one girl I dated a few months ago who really liked me but I didn't really like back. I mean she had a good personality but I wasn't physically attracted to her at all. I know looks aren't everything but there has to be some physical attraction.
The other part where it isn't really choice is where I find girls I do like off dating sites end up flaking or disappearing after 2-4 dates. I haven't given up but I'm starting to think dating sites are pointless just because as a guy, you'll take what you can get and most women have their pick of the litter and 9/10 times from those sites they might find someone they like better.1
I got out of a relationship a while ago, it was a long one (a few years) but it didn't work out. Its sad when that happens but I did learn something from the experience. Right not I am single still because that is my choice at the current time, just focusing on me an getting my life together the way I want it. In time I will search for someone again, just not until I feel ready too.1
It's not really by choice, I am by nature a relationship person but for the time being my current situation restricts me from being able to have a traditional functioning relationship. So until I get that squared away I will not be dating at least not in my town.1
Most guys don't choose to they simply can't get a girl cause of their looks and personality, most women choose to be single cause they are too picky.3
I'm getting myself together career wise... not in a mental place to be anyone's partner right now.
Once I have my path set, then I will be willing to date someone.2
Got burned last time, turned me off chicks for a long time.
Also, I lack social opportunities because of where I live. I don't like living here either and don't want to develop ties here. I live in a city that regularly gets named one of the worst cities in America to live in.1
I am single since i took birth for some of the reasons..
--I do not want to fornicate due to my religious nature..
--I do not want to destroy life of girls for my lust.
--There is no environment in my place where i can date without feeling of guilt.
--Many times when i think to just ask girl for relation then i find there is lot of barrier of caste and religion in my country that there is no scope for relation before marriage..
--Otherwise i am also happy to be single.
--The girls which i get attracted are protected under religious barrier.
Certainly i have no choice to make relation before marriage..1
Going for the boring - Haven't met the right person yet.2
Because there're too many things in life that are actually important to focus rather than buying expensive chocolates, listening to the sadder Busted albums and feeling sorry for myself all for a small chance to shag someone and then raise a fledgling of kids that'll inevitably hate me after 18 years?1
Mostly because I'm floating on an ice berg in the Antarctic right now3
Never had one, searching for the right one. Whenever I fall, they always reject or already have a boyfriend.1
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What Girls Said 95
i dont want a relationship right now, nor do i feel i am ready, so I'm not putting myself out there for awhile.6
I just became single today... I broke up with my boyfriend because I wasn't in love with him. I love him but he's not the one I want to live my life with. I know that sounds horrible but I would rather let him go now, have a little pain, find someone who will love him how he should be loved. There were a lot of tears but he will always be my first love and I really hope he finds a great girl who thinks the world of him. I want him to find someone who gives him everything I can't... if anyone deserves to be happy it's him. He is a wonderful person and I was bringing him down and if you love something you set it free. I hope he opens his wings and flies on into the sunset and lives a long life full of unconditional love.2
Because Im in love with the wrong person and haven't been able to get over him in the last 5 years. Also every time I forget him or try to move on, he reappears in my life. He is also very much in love with me but he has a kid and a wife so I keep my distance eventhough we both know we love one another.
I really really need to move on and its funny cause I have never slept with him or done anything stupid. But he is Mr Love Hangover Big Time.1
I am single by choice. Not really looking for a relationship right now because I am trying to focus on my studies so I can graduate next year from high school. And I am also focusing on myself. I had a boyfriend once the relationship was okay but after while no magic was happening. I began to lose myself, and I depended on him way to much. We all make mistakes of course. But something I learned is that you don't need a boyfriend to make you happy. I want to reinvent myself for spring break and for the summer it isn't for attention its just something I want to do for myself. I am single because I want to be right now. I haven't been single in five years and I'm just getting started. I haven't met the right guy in my life yet, and I've only been in one relationship. I'm taking a break from dating for a while so I can work on myself. I probably won't start dating again until I finish high school2
Well. It's partially because the guys that I like are either aren't interested, they're total jerks when I got to know them, or they're too scared to tell me their feelings. (I'm in the last boat right now... but I'm too scared to tell him my feelings too so I don't blame him.)1
Im going to get personal: since i joined the adult industry i learned a lot about men and myself. Ran into a ton of different guys and have heard it all! some very nice ones, losers, perverts, married, committed, religious, personalities but all kinda seemed to have the same mentality? A lot of what men would share with me made me think a lot of my past very few serious relationships that were almost perfect and realized they were lies, a smile to my face and a stab to my back. It was sort of a epiphany i had, i felt taken advantage of and kinda just disgusted and turned off by men still kinda am? Not really? im just so much more aware now. but im realizing that thats just man its his nature to be horny all the time, and pretty much only 90% are faithful honestly no matter how old or what situation they are in lol women kinda have to either deal with it or try to understand how it is. its a little scary, you just never really know who has good intentions towards you. I'll be social and friendly with guys that i meet now but knowing they can't have me and being single makes me desirable;) and that's better then a relationship to me.1
Thats a great question because I was pretty happy being single until recently.
I would say that at that time, I was single by choice and I was just dating and sleeping around (not a heap) as I pleased, and regaining some confidence in myself that I had perhaps lost during my last relationship.
Then, low and behold - right as I wasn't looking, someone came along and I wouldn't say swept me off my feet, but did enough to have me reconsider my fancy free single life, and whether I wanted to get into something again.
Long story short, that went belly up after a few months and now Im back in the 'I'm single cause the guy I like doesn't like me' boat, wishing that I hadn't given up that comfort I had found in being single.1
I just don't think I ever met anyone who was worth it to me... guys I dated all turned out to be the wrong guy for me.. whenever I go through a breakup I like to take minimum one year for myself.. so I won't talk to any guys I meet during that time.
In addition to that, every time I meet a guy he is usually in a long term relationship or married. I seldom meet single guys. And when I do its usually when I go to a bar... guys my age at bars who are single are usually losers.. the "good" guys are taken.. and I put "good" in quotes because they're good in that they are educated, fun and smart, but they are not loyal. My city is filled with cheaters...
I refuse to settle for someone as I am not desperate either... so that's why I'm single.
I think whether I'm married or single I'll be happy. As long as I have my family, some single friends and my career which allows me to travel, shop and have fun...1
Single by choice. I'd rather be single and focus on my goals and bettering myself than have someone that won't support me in them, bring me down, etc. Besides being single is fun. I'm not saying that if the right person were to come along and prove themselves to me and shake up my world I wouldn't give them a chance, but I'm not looking for just anyone to be my partner. I'm not looking in general. I take life as it comes.1
For me it would be because I don't get serious about just any guy. I don't jump into relationships just for the sake of not being single (been there done that doesn't make me feel better about myself). I am also at uni and I said i wouldn't let boys be a distraction (so much for that haha). Also at our age guys can be quite immature and still are in the process of figuring themselves out. I have many guy friends even though I'm single. So I wouldn't say I want to be single but I don't want to be with the wrong person. I respect myself to much to put myself in that situation.1
Because I have issues + I almost never go out except to job interviews and to see my friends...2
Same. I think people take dating too casually sometimes. If I'm giving time, emotion, and effort for a person, I better be wildly and madly in love with them!
Also, I'd have a hard time reaching some of my life goals with the distraction of a guy.1
Because I used to move around and... and now that bit me back in the butt.1
I have trust issues 😝1
I'm single because I realized the person that I loved brought me so much more unhappiness than happiness.2
I hella weird and too boring for most guys I know. And they bore me right back. I'm "quirky" as I've been told.
I want to be a surgeon! So school is so very important to me. Getting closer to my dream one day at a time! And I frickin love that.
Haven't met someone who actually cares about me. And likes me and not what they want me to be. I feel like an object to boost the guy's ego.1
I keep thinking I can find somebody better. Every time an opportunity comes along I think to myself: "what if somebody better comes along?" I don't believe in dating multiple people at the same time and I don't believe in dumping one person when a better replacement comes along so I just wait and wait until my perfect guy comes along.2
I'm single because I've wanted to be. However, I think I'm ready to experience love.1
I'm single because I like being able to do my own thing
plus I wouldn't be able to date and be in a reletionship cause a reletionship would be hard on me so I dasided to a frieandswithbenifits with a guy on imvu and one other resion why I'm single is because im specilneeds and I don't think there would be guys that weren't specilneeds who would want to date me so that's why I'm single but I'm manly single because I like to do my own thing and I don't have to rely on one person2
Because I dumped my ex 3 moths ago and am now having fun dating other guys. Not interested in a serious relationship currently at all.1
I just got out of a relationship that didn't end very well (he cheated on me). So I'm staying single by choice at the moment. I don't have the time and energy to invest in a relationship either (I'm a uni student, I have a part time job, I play soccer, I play the cello (in a string quartet and soon an orchestra too), I wanna see my friends, etc.1
I not looking for one right now, don't get me wrong sometimes I get lonely and wish I had someone to share experiences with but then I remember that's what friends are for. I'm just 21 a relationship is not my priority right now I rather focus on school, buying my first car and making my school bus turn awesome chic rv a reality1
I have no idea lol :P
Maybe it's because I haven't found someone right for me. Relationships are damn hard and I don't like the idea of fooling around, being with a guy just because sometimes I get lonely. It can also be because I'm really shy xD
But I guess like being single, I can do my own thing, have more freedom... not spend money for a guy :P1
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Because the last date I went on caused me to have a panic attack because I rushed into it when I wasn't ready. I'm single by choice because I do not wish to experience that ever again.1
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