When my boyfriend and I first started dating he was amazing!!
He left me cute love notes, he always picked flowers from me, complimented me, etc.
We've been together about 4 years now and he doesn't do ANY of those things anymore!
I have gained some weight and I really don't dress like I used to, he says that isn't why he quit doing those things but I don't believe him.
Can anyone help me figure this out?
Most Helpful Girl
A lot of those things fade away within the first few months. The honeymoon period.
His affection hasn't gone it's changed.
You've changed - you've gained weight.
But that's not the end of the world, it happens.
You've grown up and changed how you dress. And dress appropriate to size.
I've gained weight with my current boyfriend and ex and the different is amazing. Before, I gained about half a stone (7 pounds) and my ex flipped. He wanted me to be anorexic. My current boyfriend, I gained weight (from birth control very quickly) I gained 3 stone ( 21 pounds) and his reaction was "weight comes and goes".
Weight is an issue but it's what you make of it really.
Flowers and compliments and stuff thats about keeping the girl. You've been in a relationship long enough for it to be love more than lush. He quit those things because he didn't need to carry them on and life got in the way. I'm sure you've stopped some things - stopped wearing sexy underwear, making him breakfast lunch and dinner, stopped giving spontaneous blowjobs, etc. Your relationship has changed, and so have you and him.
Don't take it personally.3