I've been dating this man for almost three months. last weekend I asked him where he saw things going. He said he was not sure it was too early to tell. he works 3 jobs and I can only see him once a week Lately. He told me we can be exclusive but he's not ready for the bf label. He said this conversation should have happened later When we know each other better. He said he gets the vibe I'm frustrated with what he can give me and that if he does not tell me how he feels soon I would dump him. I told him no I just wanted to know where he was at. I asked if he wanted to end things with me and he said no he's happy with how things are going. The conversation ended well we went to bed not fighting. since then we have not talked much I've texted him a few times and he answers but normally he initiates more. I'm not sure if he's just done with me and does not have the guts to breakup with me or he's just taking a breather after our fight. Normally we see a each other on weekends but I was gone last weekend. He has not made much effort to get I touch with me since and it's Tuesday a week later. What should I do, just give him more time and space or assume it's over?
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It appears here, dear, without it having to be etched in stone With-------I've been dating this man for almost three months... and hopefully counting, that now that the cat has been let out of the bag as to where you both stand, he is getting some cold duck feet, it has become somewhat awkward in your relationship and Now------He has not made much effort to get in touch with me since...
Although this tom has laid it on the line with 'We can be exclusive' and not being ready nor raring to label this more, by you Asking him 'Where he saw things,' he got caught off guard with this, like being caught with his hand in the cookie jar and was almost forced to tell you, which you saw he did, and now it has changed things a bit, it would seem, because he doesn't feel comfortable in having to had explain anything about 'Anything' it seems. He feels that perhaps now that you know, it is putting this peer pressure on him on his end with his 'Vibe,' and it is not only Frustrating you but him now as well.
If he continues to shut you out, put you on his pay no mind list with no open lines of convo and n 'Initiates more,' tell him you think it might be best if you both either take a break from one another and do some soul searching or just be friends and keep things lite and semi sweet. Somehow this has put a monkey wrench into what he never most likely expected you to ask and he is being indifferent and I don't feel it is fair to you to leave you... holding the bag with whatever surprises could come next.
Good luck. xx2
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