So I have a crush, we have been to many of the same parties and have chatted frequently. I'm pretty sure he's at least a little into me too (always asking me questions at parties and doing the whole arms round the waist in photos deal). He hasn't asked me out, but I have heard from many of our mutual friends that he rarely does, and likes the girl to make the first move. Once when we were chatting on Facebook I was building up the courage to ask him out for lunch when half way through our convo he went offline. So decided to send him a private Facebook message asking him to catch up for lunch sometime this week, it has been three days and still I have had no word.
Was this approach too forward? If not why has he not replied? Even if he wanted to say no, shouldn't he at least have the decency to reply? And I know that he has been online since I left the message - please help me!
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First off, I usually would stray from asking someone out online unless it's in the natural flow of the conversation (like you're talking about future plans, a restaurant, etc. and it would make sense to plan them together). I just feel like there's too many question marks with online communication (Did he get my message?, Does he check FB that often?, Maybe the email went to spam?, etc.). Also, because the response time is rarely immediate, you will make yourself a nervous wreck over-analyzing EVERYTHING as you eagerly wait for his reply!
Aside from this though, he may have just not seen the Facebook message yet. I'm one of those people (and I know many others) that don't keep their inbox clean and don't really check their messages very often. If you see him frequently (I assume you go to the same school), just follow up and ask him if he got your message and wants to get lunch. In person, you'll be able to much better determine his feelings by how he responds. If he's "busy," non-committal, or stammering for an excuse, those could be bad signs. If he's very receptive and happy to get lunch with you, that's a better sign. But simply speculating about it now is going to drive you nuts.