So this guy that I honestly never paid much attention to has a major crush on me. He has basically admitted that he thinks I'm beautiful, was always nervous to talk to me in fear of saying something dumb, and remembers things that I said/did like five years ago when we first met. I recently went to a bar where his band was playing, and agreed to go to a sports game and bar with him. Whenever we run into people he knows, they always already know who I am or say things like ohhhhh I've heard some stuff about you. Though I have fun hanging out with him, I don't have any feelings for him. I'm 23 years old and have never been in a serious relationship. I kept telling myself to give him a chance. But I just don't like him like that. How do I let him go without hurting him too much?
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Honestly, there'll be no easy way to get around this - you can be gentle as you like but it might still hit home pretty hard for him.
But! I'd still say you should tell him. Lay your cards out on the table. Tell him he's a brilliant friend to you, but you just aren't looking for a relationship with him and he can't change that. Tell him you'll understand if that means he wants to let go of you and cut his ties to get over you, but make sure he understands what you feel - or rather, what you don't feel.
Otherwise he's going to torture, and torture, and torture himself because he doesn't know for sure that there's no chance with you. He'll keep trying until he knows otherwise.
It's quite an awkward line to walk though, if you tell him and he cuts his ties. You might end up missing him more than you know.
Good luck all the same!1
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