I asked something similar earlier but now I am actually really worried.
So a little background first. I don't really know this girl, like we aren't even friends on Facebook. I met her during orientation week several months back and we talked and honestly, after that one conversation, I was like "SHE IS AMAZING". After orientation week, I didn't really see her or talk to her much. A couple days ago, I saw her on Tinder and I was like "I should really just ask her out". Knowing I probably would end up regretting it, I sent her a message on Facebook and asked her out for coffee. To my surprise, she said yes.
I sent her a message asking what time would be good. She tells me what she would prefer. I send her a message with a time and place and asking if thats good.
She never responded to that last message. I was worried that it was perhaps it took me so long to reply to all of her messages and gave her the sense that I was uninterested or something. So last night (a day after the last message went unanswered), I sent her a message say "let me know if [time] works! I'm really looking forwards to this".
That message has also gone unanswered and I was just wondering if that means the date is off? Although its very possible that she hasn't checked Facebook in over 48 hours, would it be more likely that she is no longer interested?
What is your opinion on this and what should I do?
Also, I understand that without the exact wording of the messages, its hard to judge and give an opinion. If you message me, I can send you the messages that we exchanged just so you have more context.
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Ok first off, are you sure she know you asked her out for a date, or she think it just friendly coffee hang-out? I will assume coffee hang-out for now.
Second, saying "I'm really looking forward to this!" sound a little desperate.
Third, assume the hang-out is off until you guys work out a time.
Girl can be flaky and we all know schedule can change rapidly. Maybe she's actually busy and can't reply, maybe she not interested in the coffee hang-out, who know.
You should stop sending her any more message until she replied back. If she never replied, take the hint and move on.0