I feel like i need my ex of 5 years in my life as a friend even though we broke up 8 months ago. We ended the relationship in good terms. And we stopped talking for 8 months until yesterday. We went for a coffee and talked and we had a good time. and now she doesn't want to be friends but i do. And i dont want to date her or anything i just want her to be in my life so that once in a blue moon we could talk or hang out. She already had a bf and broke up and i hooked up with a few women. We both have moved on. But the problem is that i seem to be drawn back to her because i always meet women that have her name or same background. She says she doesn't want to talk or see me because it feels weird. I told her i understand and i respect that.
Why is this happening to me? What should i do?
- forget about her (explain)Vote A
- you still care about her in one way or another (explain)Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
You want her in your life because she is familiar and it would comfort you to have her on your radar, regardless of whether you want to be friends or more, she doesn't want to be your friend and that is her decision to make. Some people don't want an ex in there life because they have moved on and they don't want to bring you into their present when you are the past. It's her choice so respect it and leave her alone.1