I met this guy by chance through mutual friends, but not yet in person. We have really special connection and I would describe it as an emotional, platonic relation which seems that could easily become profound romantic relationship when we meet. Either of us doesn't want to define it before that. But two month ago, he started being distant all the sudden and we don't talk so much as we used to. He still claims he is happy we should meet soon, but he doesn't seem enthusiastic as he used to be about it. The change happened over night... I asked him what is happening and he said he is just overwhelmed with some problems about work and not being in a best mood, He already had such problems earlier few times, but he was not acting like this. He still sometimes says something romantic, but it is not as near as it used to be most of the time... When that behavior started, he acted as if he is mad at me... Our mutual friends think he is scared I won't like him when we meet face to face, because he doesn't feel good about his looks... It would be nice if we could communicate normally as we used to, especially since we should meet... I have two questions and will appreciate any wise answers :-) First question is how should I act? I ignored him when I had enough of his behavior at some points, and he would all the sudden put much more effort in our relation, but not for long... And I don't want games, I did that only when I honestly didn't feel like talking to him... And the other question is why would he act like that? Is it possible he is really scared? Or mad? Though I don't know why... Everyone describes him as an sensitive, honest and kind guy and it seemed he is... Though, he has a problem being open when he has to say something unpleasant. I guess I should wait and see, but I like healthy relations with people and it doesn't seem to be anymore like that. Thanks everyone for answers in advance! :-)
I am talking to this guy who lives in another country for a year via Skype and chat, but now that we should meet soon, he seems distant. Any advice?
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Long distance is diffficult. You should meet each other within 6 months to a year. After 1 year or 1.5 years, you should decide to live in same city. OR you are wasting your life. Don't do it. It is not a realistic relationship unless in SAME city to see if you are compatible and facing every day ups and downs together.1
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