I have always received compliments by both men and women for being pretty and people always assumed that I definitely had a boyfriend or at least very experienced in sex already because outwards appearance wise, my looks is very deceiving.
However, in reality I am actually a virgin and non of my friends believe me when I told them although it's the truth.
I have went out on dates a few times before but I have never met a guy who made me feel emotionally attached enough to want to go further into the relationship at all.
I always chicken out when sex is near because I just couldn't bear to go through with it because I cannot have sex with someone I am not entirely in love with.
Although I am pretty and act confident on the outside, inside I am actually kind of shy and awkward and totally inexperience in sex (actually, sex experience = 0).
I am worried that if a guy finds out the real me, he is going to think that there is something wrong with me and because of that I sort of gave up on meeting men and going on dates nowadays. I am blessed with good looks but it is useless when the personality doesn't match at all...
Some women can be so comfortable around men so why can't I be the same?
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For me, the lack of experience wouldn't turn me off of you. The lack of trying or willing to learn new things would. I totally understand about being with the right person and having that emotional connection with them before wanting sex. This is your own preference, but I would say for many successful couples they had sex or were physically active well before they fully fell in love with each other. If I was starting to date I would certainly want some kind of connection to develop and there would have to minimum amount of trust and comfort built up before any sex started. But for me true love and that deep passionate and emotional connection probably would not develop until months later. The thing is, I would be ready for sex after about a few weeks or a month. Basically start dating, find you really like this person and get comfortable with them and trust them, start having sex and then later you fall totally in love with them. You want to totally fall in love before having sex. Nothing wrong with that, but that may one of the things holding up the show here. If it takes months to fall in love, but no sex, I can see how a lot of guys aren't interested in that and therefore hard to find a bf. The other problem I think you have is that you are dwelling too much on your lack of sexual experiences and this is making you more self-conscience about it which is putting more pressure and undue stress on yourself. Just be yourself. Guys love to find unique women.0