Hello, my name is Marc and next month I'll be turning 21 years old. Lately, I felt so depressed that I am unable to overcome such sadness.
Let me tell you my story, hoping that you will read it till the end.
First, I'll start with a cliché sentence : I never had any girlfriend, never been kissed, never hold a girl's hand, never dated a girl, neither I've gone out with one of them as a friend. Nevertheless, I had a female friend but that was 10 years ago. As for now, my female friends are limited to only one that I've met at college but it is only an acquaintance so I don't think I can truly consider her as a friend.
Then, being a shy person makes it harder for me to approach girls. Thus, I'm having huge difficulties to talk to girls either at university, or elsewhere. Now, I'm in a need of having a girlfriend. I feel so loveless, but I know that I can't get a girlfriend by staying the same person as I am actually.
I never had the guts to ask a girl her number, neither to ask her out, never. I don't know what to do anymore, I feel so miserable that I'm starting to think that I'll end my life being single and never experience what is true love.
As for the male friends, I've made some friends like two or three persons but I have a lot of acquaintances. Indeed, I believe that making male friends isn't a big deal for me.
To sum up, I desperately want to elevate my self-esteem, to hang out with girls, and eventually have a girlfriend. I don't know what to do, no one taught me how to do it, therefore I have no idea how to proceed.
I'm turning 21, which means I'm getting older. The older I become, the harder it will be to approach girls. I have to do it now, and do it right.
Please, don't even think about the fact that I want a girlfriend in order to have sex. I just need some love from her, and spent time with her.
Thank you for reading, and hoping that you'll take your time to help me in that harsh situation.
- Is being 21 years old, and single considered to be weird? Yes.Vote A
- Is being 21 years old, and single considered to be weird? No.Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
It seems to me that you are overthinking. These things just happen spontaneously in life. When you meet someone, just be yourself. Don't think about what they think of you, or what you should say to satisfy them. There are no awkward moments in life, they only seem like that to us when we think about them too much :) Even if you say something silly, it can make you sound cute/make the girl laugh. So my advice is to try participating in different activities at your college/workplace, playing sports, frequently attending the same places like bars and such, etc. and you will surely meet new people, including girls :) Stop saying things like " I am too shy, I could never do that" and throw yourself out there! At first it will be scary and stressful to you, but that is the only way to come out of your shell. Good luck!
Also, no, it is not weird to still be single at 21. You are young, stop worrying!! :D1