A guy just asked me out and I said ok. I've never been on a date before..where should I expect to go on a first date? What should I wear? what should I talk about? should I let him pick me up or have my dad drop me off? should I kiss him good night if the date goes well?
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First you must understand how attraction works, then dating & values.
Attraction: Different guys are attracted to different girls for different reasons:
The guy you might be going on a date with found something special qualities from the impression you made on him beforehand. That may have been a short glimpse of your appearance and personality, or a lifetime of comfort and getting to know each other.
It is you, and he is attracted to you.
Dating: Getting to know if someone you're attracted to in a relaxed, fun setting:
Activities that get your hearts going, such as wall climbing, skating, mall waking/window shopping sightseeing, Frisbee in the park, as well as getting ice cream, coffee, or having a BBQ. Word of advice: don't bring a to-do-list..a let alone make one. Let things fall into place.
These are all examples of cost-efficient, easy-going activities that you can have fun doing, and learn about each other..There is a chance in all of those to show their spontaneous side, and just in case the date goes bad, it's easy to leave on short notice.
These are some examples of not well planned 1st dates, and why:
-Movie Theater: Can't talk/get to know each other.. your entire focus is on a movie.
-Restaurant: You're stuck there if you find out you don't like him. You will most likely suffer many long, uncomfortable silences as you are expected to talk..plus, there is no fun in sitting!
-Expensive/Classy Restaurant: Just the title says it's try-hard..maybe creepy! Why would you spend much money on someone you don't even know you like? Are they desperate? Tell him to watch 50 First dates and get back to you!
-(ex.)Sky Diving: There are some things that may be too extreme for a first date, especially since you may not have established much trust yet. Find out what you're both comfortable doing, and if they do agree with you, you may have a keeper!
Besides keeping a date fun & simple, the only REALLY IMPORTANT thing is YOU!
Your values are what make the core of who you are. You have 100% control over if you want to give him a kiss or not. If you like him a lot, and want to show him that you're interested in getting to know him further, go ahead and give him a sweet, slow little kiss on the lips-if you feel it's right. A way of telling him that you like him, but as a friend, tell him, then give him a kiss on the cheek, and thank him for the night. If it's a bad date, and you just want to end it, say you'll have to get going, & thank him for the night..it's respectful.
As much as your own values are important, it shows you're a responsible lady when you respect curfew, and arrange safe transportation. If the person you're dating disrespects your parents wishes for your safety, what does that really say abut him?
You attracted the guy by dressing as you normally do, as you should on your date. Don't smear makeup all over your face, but a pretty, clean appearance will get his heart jumping.
Dressing to make each other look good just shows you care!5