My first relationship ended with her cheating on me, then we get back together and she cheats with me on her old boyfriend. I'm scared shitless to get into another relationship.. It feels like cheating is the new normal nowadays, and its feels like a "If you can't beat em, join em." Kind of situation.
I honestly would never cheat. I couldnt. But its so easy for people though. How can i ever get over this? If i ever get into a relationship again, and all is good, i still feel like eventually i will get cheated on in the long run.
The stories of couples that were married with children for 15 years and then they get cheated on? I couldnt ever deal with that, i honestly dont know what i would do.
The statistics of cheaters in this world, it just seems like its bound to happen every single time, and im honestly scared shitless. Its the ultimate betrayal, and the worst possible emotional destroying thing that could happen to me.
Like seriously, i want to get married some day, and i want to be able to carry my name into the next generation and have children. But if cheating is so normal then what the fuck is the point?
I wish someone could convince me otherwise, but its just the sad truth. Everyone fucking cheats.
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I got broken up with (kind of) for this reason. Two days ago and I'm kind of devastated. The guy I was dating still hasn't recovered from his girlfriend who cheated on him last year before we met.
I'm an honest person and I was upfront about my feelings towards him throughout everything. I told him about my previous relationships and we established what we called the 'honesty policy.' We would always tell each other the truth, even if it was awkward or difficult to talk about.
There's no easy way to recover from betrayal. But it does need to be dealt with and if someone loves you, they'll be willing to work through it with you, that's what a true partnership is. Just take things slow when you meet someone and over time you'll learn about their morals and whether they gain your trust. I hope you find that.0