A guy I had a big crush on in the past really hurt me with the things that he said. Things were fine for about a month or so. When we hung out he showed all the signs of liking me and we even had sex once which was really amazing. Then all of a sudden I noticed that I would hear from him less kind of and then one day he basically switched up and said he didn't want me in his life. He told me how he really enjoyed all the times we shared but all of that was done now. I got angry and I was hurt. I told him how he was a a**hole and jerk. After I calmed down months later I tried to send him a friend request on Facebook because I wanted to know why he was so mean towards me all of a sudden but he denied my friend request and marked me as spam. I just wanted to know why he was so cold and mean to me. I don't know if he just wanted to use me for sex, if he was afraid, or if he was afraid to take things further with me because I'm a different race than him. I thought of every possible reason and I've just been upset about it these pass few months wondering why he became so mean to me when all I ever showed him was kindness and I wanted to spend time with him and get to know him. I don't know if I should send him a messsage on Facebook or not. He may not answer me or he may block me. It's just been running through my mind. I don't like not knowing the answer to things. But are something better left unsaid?
Should you ask people why they have hurt you or should you just walk away and move on?
What Guys Said 3
He explained to you that he doesn't want you in his life and although he had a good time with you, it is over now. There is his explanation.
What else would you want to hear from him?0
What Girls Said 2
I think more or less people ask the questions if they need it to move on, the worst thing to do is leave someone not knowing the reasons or answers, then they will constantly wonder what they did to cause whatever actions the other person is doing. For all you know it could not be you, but him- but how do you know that you don't, go ahead and ask, if he doesn't respond then at least you will know you tried0
You should walk away. They're never going to give you a reason anyway. It'll only give them more room to ridicule/bully/judge you. There's no point in wasting your time on people who are like that. It doesn't matter WHY they do stuff like that. What matters is that YOU deserve to be happy and that you should surround yourself with people who make you happy.0
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