I've tried almost everything. I've asked it as a favour, I've told her it'd be a nice way of overcoming anxiety and I assured her it'd simply be a casual walk between friends. Her response is always "I'd love to, but I just can't". Apparently she has gone out with other friends of hers and she always ended up freaking out. She just can't stand going out alone with someone.
I'm open to suggestions. I MUST find a way to comfort her.
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I was actually like this in high school. Relationships just terrified me and gave me really bad anxiety. I still liked guys, it's just when things got too real for me, I would freak out. I hurt some guys doing this, and I feel bad, especially because there was one guy that I had serious feelings for. I was completely in love with him, and I tried so hard to date him, but I would be sick with anxiety 24/7 and I have no clue why. I had to dump him, and I still feel terrible about it, because he hates me now. He seems to have it in his head that I just played with his feelings and hurt him on purpose. He didn't understand when I told him what I was going through and he won't talk to me anymore.
It wasn't until after college that I stopped feeling this way about relationships. I have a boyfriend now, and we've been dating for about a year, but I still wonder what my relationship with that other guy would have turned out like, and sometimes I wish I could get a second chance at it. I'm really in love with my current boyfriend though, so I guess I'll never know lol.
My advice to you is to be patient. You might really like her, but you're also still young. Be single, play the field, enjoy your youth, but stay friends with her. I'm afraid all you can do is be understanding and give her the space that she needs, because the only thing that'll help her get over her anxiety is time. I was 18 when my anxiety went away and I tried to get back in touch with that other guy, but I found out that he'd blocked me lmao. He was super sensitive, but then again, I did hurt him pretty badly. Let her come to you when she's ready but always make sure that she knows you'll be there.0