We are both 30 and have been together for 8 months.
We fight a lot and it's not been easy. But we both made compromises and things have been better in the past couple of months. But then we fought again this past weekend and even though we made up, it's been awkward (which isn't unusual after a fight). But i called him today and he said he doesn't know if he loves me anymore and says it's not working out. I asked him directly if he wants to break up and he says he doesn't know. I said all couples fight but the point is they stay together after but he said "or they move on." I.stayed calm and said I love him and I want to be with him but we aren't kids anymore so if he thinks I'm not the one he's going to end up with, then he needs to find someone else because I do want him to be happy. He just said I don't know and that he's going to wash up and call me back later.
Even as I type, it sounds pretty much like it's over. But I might as well ask since I've already written all this. I get that fighting hurts the relationship and he's probably tired of it all. And yes I know he even said he doesn't know if he loves me anymore. My question is - is this not fixable? I don't need to hear whether it's worth trying because I think that's for me to decide. But I would like to hear opinions as to whether it's even possible to save this relationship and how. Thank you.
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That guy doesn't have any strong feelings for relationship due to whatever fights you have had with him all this time. I mean really fighting on a regular basis can irritate anybody, and make you to leave that relation asap. But, if the the guy says he don't know whether he wants a break up then he probably is looking for the reasons to cling on and he doesn't know whether it is worth it. Just clinging on doesn't work that often unless he really wants to be in a relationship. Dragging such relationship is just a waste of time for me.
I still hope that things should work out between you two as you seem to love that person.1