I don't understand... I'm a good, young guy, 19 years old, good-looking, nice, got a good head on my shoulders... I was never into partying, I don't smoke or drink (because I'm underage). I'm a virgin and plan on keeping it that way...
SO... Why does it seem like any young woman, maybe I shouldn't use that term... girl, gets totally turned off, and/or paranoid about the attention I give them?
I'm the kind of guy that is only out to make friends, I won't do any wrong to anyone, and I can be the best friend a girl (or guy) can have. I ain't gonna pull no "behind the back" two-faced crap about anyone. But seeing how I am this way, I don't see how these girls like to go back to their drug headed boyfriends, who they seem to care about more than anything in the world... I mean, they think highly of that?!
Why is everything so... backwards? Why are girls so paranoid of me? I mean really, I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet, I got my head in the right place... I have people tell me that all the time, "you have a good head on your shoulders" and I'll get compliments on good looks as well.
I'm not trying to brag or seem overly cocky... I'm just saying, MULTIPLE times I've been rejected and/or totally ignored by, what I thought, were good young women. They were very pretty, very smart, one I was interested in very much... the others, not so much. I was lead by all of them to believe we'd be good friends and that we'd be able to spend some time together, and it never happened, and without much closure too BTW... Just flat out ignored. I mean really, what am I gonna do? Tell you that I like you?
What's going on?
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well, being good doesn't neccesarily make you attractive
if all we had to do was be good and act nice, then no one would have any problems
girls like strong, fun , entertaining guys, who they can have a good time with.
Whether the guy is good or bad rarely comes into the equation but 'bad boys' have
an aire of excitement to them.
When they think of bad, they think of things like a motorcycle racing, short tempered leader
of a gang of guys that plays by his own rules. That kinda bad.
This kind of bad boy exhibits leadership strength and excitement.
girls like good guys if they can show these same qualities.
If you're an adventurous guy , who leads a group of friends who isn't afraid to try and discover
new things, then she will feel the same way.
an example of bad boys who girls aren't attracted to would be those guys that sit in their house all day using drugs and not doing anything exciting, with nothing to offer her.
in short, if you can provide the girl with excitement (and by excitement I don't mean Indiana Jones, I mean keeping her stimulated with fun things to do together) , show her that you're a leader, show her that you can keep her safe, Then you won't have too many problems with the 'bad boys' getting all the young girls2