So my bf and his 2 sisters were going to pitch in for one big mothers day gift for their mom. My bf asked me to go in on it this year because I get along really well with his mom and we have been together 4 years. Of course I said yes. So I'm prepared to go in on this gift and about a week later my bf says he wants to talk to me about the gift. I said what's up and he said his one sister doesn't want me to go in on the gift and she is upset about it. I was really taken back by this and hurt and confused as to why its a big deal besides with another person going in on the gift that is less money she has to spend. So I then said to my bf well what did your sister say when you told her that I am going to go in on the gift anyway because I already agreed to it and it is rude to me to suddenly.say I can't go in on it? There was a long pause and he said well I didn't exactly tell her that I said I will talk to her meaning me again. I was like well honestly you should have stuck up for me better and say that the agreement was already made for me to go in on the gift and it.is rude to tell me now I can't. I asked him what is it to her anyways? It usjt up to her if I go in on it or not. He said he is just trying to please everyone. I took that as him basically saying he didn't have the balla to defend me his girl. There was an argument back and forth between me and my guy because I feel like he didn't defend me and he is almost siding with his sister in a way. So my question is why is his sister getting her panties in a was over this gift and why won't my bf stick up for me? by the way in case it.makes a difference I always thought his sis really liked me
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I don't think you are looking at it from his point of view. For whatever reason his sister is upset and she has the power to make his life miserable, or at least more unpleasant. So you are actually asking a lot from him by expecting him to stand up for you. Him asking you to back out however costs you nothing. He is just a guy stuck between loved ones trying to keep the peace the best he can. He can't reason with his sister so he is hoping he can reason with you.
If you want to get her something then you could do it by yourself. Maybe send her some flowers or something. That way his mom gets the gift from "the family" which I guess is what his sister wants, but you can also show you care for and respect his mom. That would seem like a fair compromise to me.0
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