My bf of several months refused to walk me to my car, about a block from his place, at night (around 1:30am) and he lives downtown. He always walks me to the front entrance, but I usually can get a parking spot right out front.
I asked him if he would walk me to my car, but he looked down at his slip-ons as an excuse. This didn't make sense to me, because he had already walked through the halls and was outside! I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, so I just kissed him goodbye and crossed my fingers that I wouldn't get mugged as I walked to my car, by myself.
A couple months later, I broke up with him, mostly because his selfish and immature ways added up, and we parted amicably. I am just thinking back on our relationship and perhaps regretting some of my passive behaviour. Is it too dramatic if I told him the next day something like, I thought it was really inconsiderate that you didn't walk me to my car last night and didn't even bother to check up on me later to see if I got home...Or what about telling him in the moment something like that...
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Reading your post I get two things:
1) You and he didn't communicate;
2) The differences in your attitudes and beliefs led you to view him as immature and resulted in you and him parting ways.
While not communicating to him your feelings and views about certain aspects of his behaviour as it related to your relationship was a contributing factor; my sense is you and he are at different places from a personal development point of view and what you want from a relationship. I don't think this is exclusively a communication issue.
When I consider someone's actions in any context I always ask myself,"What is reasonable in this situation"? I don't think expecting him to walk you to your car at 1:30 a. m. is unreasonable. In fact it demonstrates that he is concerned about your safety and well being and is very chivalrous, which I'm almost certain you would have found heart warming.
It is human nature to question decisions and perhaps you are feeling loss and lonely right now are a result of this breakup. A difference in maturity is not something that can be resolved with a conversation: it is a difference in outlook and beliefs which to a large degree are based on attitude, outlook and life experience.
Good for you for looking back and critically looking at how you handled yourself! IMHO, I believe you made the right decision.0