But we are together and have a new born son(well not really he is almost one). I realize I have been gone in the military for a couple years and home here and there, but before that I was stationed in the U.S. so it was eater to see her. I have been in the air force for nine years as a fighter pilot. It's what I love to do and I understand I haven't been there for her because it is hard to have a family but also need to be there for your country. But over all I have done a pretty great job.
Anyway my wife has always been one more of the free spirit type. Jumping form job to job and loving nature and all that. Which is why I fell in love with her in the first place. She's wild and free and not held down by anything and she has such a passion and strength about her. Anyway now she wants to date someone else while I am home due to my injury so I can care for the kid. She says she is being open and letting me know so it is not cheating. But to me it is. I mean is there anything I can do to stop her? Should I leave her? (Not that I really want to her and my son are my whole life). Please help I need some clarity.
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She is a 'free spirit' yet she took vows to forsake all others and commit to you. This is a small time 'fling.' What about in sickness and health? You're injured so she should be standing by and taking care of you and your baby. Moreover, she is a parent and role model, what kind of example is she setting to your child?
I think her actions and demeanor are selfish and immature. She should have never gotten married if these are her intentions. Marriage is a commitment and hard work. Furthermore, since you're in the military, all the more she needs to be strong, patient, support you and stand by her vows.
I think you both need martial counseling to enhance your communication, recapture your relationship and save the marriage. A fling will only exacerbate matters and hurt everyone in the end, it won't remedy the underlying issues. It's an excuse and form of escapism from the issues at hand.
The decision is yours. Good luck and thank you for serving our country.23
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