My boyfriend is probably the kind of boy every girl dreams of at some point. Handsome, intelligent, plays the piano and showers me with neverending displays of love and affection, in public and in private. What could possibly be wrong with that?
He's younger than me though (he's 16, I'm 18) and at first I didn't think it was such a big deal. But after about six months of being in a relationship, I'm starting to see some issues that may stem from that.
First of all, I feel like I'm a living emotional crutch for him. You know, he says how I'm "keeping him going" and all that whenever he has an argument with his parents or gets depressed... which is more or less every two or three days. Call me an egoist, but it gets tiring! I finally convinced him to go to the psychologist's office and he wouldn't go without me, even though I tried to get him to go alone, it'd be best for him. The woman said he should start defining himself independently of others (he's constantly comparing himself to others, which went far enough for him to go for a run when he heard I resumed running, in order to outrun me for the day, and when his dog that he took along didn't keep up he took her up and THREW her three yards away... I was understandably terrified). He constantly pouts and bitches because "I don't praise him enough", and when I do he claims it's fake.
Related to the above, he's constantly laying out plans for our future. Damn, I like planning myself, but coming from him it seems so serious and final. Everyone says how we should get married as soon as possible. It terrifies me, but he seems okay with that.
This last issue is still among the major ones, but smaller than the previous two - basically, I want sex. The age of consent here is 15, but he wants to wait until he's 18 nonetheless. Now I'm leaving for college in November (not exactly leaving though... it's in the same city) and I can't help feeling that basic biology
Now, as I've said, he's sweet and kind and head over heels in love with me, but at 18, I'm not gonna lie - I feel to young to settle down. His childishness, while understandable given his age, doesn't help. The question basically is - should I wait for him to get over it or review the situation and reconsider my options?
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You're right to always be evaluating the relationship you are in. He seems like basically a good guy who happens to be going through a rough phase. He sounds very mature in planning out his life. Most 16 year olds can't see beyond the next weekend.
I just think you'll regret dumping him for some guy who is willing to have sex.0