First, you NEED to tell him. Because you're minors, depending on the age difference and rules in your state, he could actually get in trouble. You like him. You don't want that. Fortunately, it sounds like you are less than two years apart, so it's probable that he's okay. You shouldn't be doing the hanky panky at your ages anyway.
His feelings will be hurt. He'll wonder what else he can't trust you on. But every single day you don't tell him, that's only going to get worse when he finally finds out. Also, you want to be the one to tell him, not your dad when he says, "Oh, and she had such a great fifteenth birthday a week ago."
So be as honest as possible with him. Tell him you didn't want to be rejected because of your age, that you really like him, that you lied because you like him, that you're telling the truth that you like him. Most of all, admit that you were wrong to lie, and that if he doesn't trust you now, that you understand that. Explain your reasons, but don't try to justify it or get defensive about it. Ask him to forgive you, but don't expect it to be immediate.
He'll be hurt, but he should appreciate your honesty and the fact that you understand the consequences of the lie. If he doesn't, he might need time. And if the relationship falls apart, just know that continuing the lie would have been postponing the inevitable. He'll find out sooner or later.
You're fourteen. Unless you date him for five more years and then marry him young, he's not the One anyway. So you'll feel bad and sad but you have time more than anything.
(Okay, that said, what were you doing on a dating site at 14? And how can you be "serious" at 14? Kids these days, geez. Enjoy being a young teenager, and let the relationship stuff come as it comes. Dating sites... well...)
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How long until your birthday? (Does he know when it is?)
I guess just tell when you're alone talking quietly somewhere, he might not be too pleased, and I'm not sure if there's a way to make it sound better. Just tell him that you wouldn't have thought he'd want you if you'd told him up front, but that you wish you hadn't lied to him, and hope he can look past it. Anyway, good luck, hopefully he's alright with it.
There isn't that big of an age difference, just tell him and be come tell honest with him. But don't get mad at what he decides about this situation after all you did lie to him, first thing that's going to pop into his head is "what else has she lied to me about" but be completely honest with, your 14 you've got plenty of time to find someone and you don't need to lie about your age, to find the right one he'd accept your age. Again your only 14.
The sooner you come clean and tell him the better. (At 14 in my opinion I believe that y ou are a little young to be getting major serious with a guy, that's just my opinion though).
The fact is that you did lie to him, he is going to have doubts whether you've been truthful in other areas too. If you've lied about anything else to him, he's going to walk away because he will feel he cannot trust you. Sorry.
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You can tell the truth by your mouth 👄 LOL 😁 tell him the truth n he'll just laugh n say no problem cutie if he loves you...😶?
Tell him you lied about your age, and that you're 14, not 15. Shame on you for lying in the first place.
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