I was molested as a young girl and that really has affected my approach to dating/being close to men. Although it happened over 20 years ago, I can still see it's effects on my life. The men I have dated, I have only reserved this information until we become intimate. I have received reactions of care and concern for me and how what they might do can affect me or even of complete discomfort while having sex because he thinks he will scare me or bring back memories. I have definitely dissociated having sex with a partner of my choosing from any horrible memory of sexual abuse. It just doesn't come up.
But, I am curious to hear what guys or girls have to say on the matter. Have you had a partner who was sexually abused at some point in their past? How did you react?
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If I am being completely honest, yes it would really bother me and change the way I view her. I tend to avoid any woman with a history of being abused by a man. I use to be a lot more sympathetic but I am tired of dealing with women that have issues with men.
I need to know she doesn't have a bad image of the male gender. Otherwise any hope I have of the relationship developing into a long term relationship is over. I wouldn't dump her because of it, but finding that out would definitely have me looking for any other red flags that she has issues with men.0