So I met this guy via fb. He's older than me and has 4 kids. He's a total gentleman. We started talking for a couple of months then he came home (he works off). We met and things really clicked, well he lives close to my ex, who I hadn't spoke to in a yr. We broke up and that was our last words. Well I was leaving "Bills" house going home and ran into my ex, we stopped and talked. It was like we never missed a beat, even though it had been a yr. We decided to ride around and catch up.. well Bill left to go back to work and though I liked him and we seemed to click, we'd only seen each other about 4 times. Anyways since then... me and my ex have been seeing each other. Things are so easy with him, and I'm comfortable, it feels like home. (We were together for 2 yesrs, got preg, miscarried, he screwed around, I got fed up and left.) My problem is, even though I told my ex I can't do it, relationship all that junk, we still see each other, I tried to call it off a wk ago and it broke my heart and cried and we're not even together. Wtf. Anyways l would really like to see where things with me and bill would go. Yet, I feel it's nowhere bc he's always gone, I'm always worked and he got "snipped" and I want kids, at least one, one day. My ex is bad for me, bc, even though he doesn't do it on purpose, and it's not really his fault, he makes me get distracted from my priorities. He always gets to be #1. I dk why it's like that, never been that way b4. I'm scared to call it off and miss out on a second chance bc I can see he realized what he lost, and that he'd be a better man to me, not that he was all that bad, but cheated, emotionally or physically is bs. Any ways.. help please. I'm so confused. Note I am 23 and in college. Ex is 29 and Bill is 34.
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You're in no way ready to be in any other serious relationship. You're still not over your EX. Better let Bill down easy before he gets hurt.
You're not confused, you just still have feelings for your EX that didn't seem to treat you that great in the past. Seems you need your EX to hurt you more before you realize people don't really ever change especially at his age. I hope im wrong, good luck.3