I asked a question on here once and developed a close relationship with him after he messaged me to give me advice. From the beginning I told him i didn't want to date online because I don't really trust the internet. He didn't either because his last online relationship didn't go well. But we have gotten really close after talking everyday for about seven months, I told him I was developing feelings for him. He said he also had feelings for me.
Well last night the conversation went a little further than usual and I really enjoyed it. I really want to take this to the next level but I don't know if I would be wasting my time. I think I am in love with this man.
I can't really meet him now because he lives in Canada and I live in the US. I go to college so I don't have the money to travel, and he doesn't have a job so he can't come here. Would it be dumb to wait to meet him?
I should also add that we only talk on Facebook. Since he doesn't work and lives at home with his mom he doesn't have much money to buy a phone or webcam. I'm being really patmant with him because he doesn't have a job so I understand that things are expensive. I could see myself marrying this man. Should i juat guve up now or should I try to continue this and see where it goes.
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There's a tendency in this kind of relationship to fill the gaps in your interaction with fantasy. You *have* to keep that in check. You don't know *anything* for sure until you've spent time together in person.
More to the point, Facebook only? Text only? You have no way of really knowing who you're dealing with. I'm in an online relationship as well, but we Skype at every opportunity - a lot of meaning is lost in human communication without things like body language and tone of voice. If I were you, I'd do what I could to independently verify his identity, his story. I have done so in my relationship, it wasn't particularly hard. First step is a reverse image search, make sure his picture (s) weren't lifted off the web. There's a lot more of that out there than you'd think.
Last step before meeting him is to make sure the people around you know exactly what's going on. Preferably, don't go alone.
This is no joke: