Something seems to be a little awry. From my limited experience, 10 months does seem to be a fair while.
First off, as something is bothering you in the relationship, you should have a conversation with him about it, it may be a delicate subject for him, but i don't see why he should get mad at you for sharing your feelings.
The bit that bothers me is "he had his heart broken in the past and said it too soon". You have already said it first, he knows the feelings go both ways, so i don't see it as a reason for him not too. Even though you said it first, if he still isn't comfortable saying it, it sounds like he may never let himself love anyone again.
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In the scheme if things, 10 months is a drop in a bucket when compared to a lifetime of happiness together... its nothing. I've been hurt before as well, so much so that I've sworn off dating altogether. Some people can recover from being hurt and it may take a loooong time. Are you willing to sacrifice everything because of three little words? You even pointed out yourself that he's shown you that he loves you, just give him time...
Mmmmm sometimes it's difficult to say things like that. I know because I'm the same way. I've dated a guy before who I did/do love but have never actually told him that. The reason was because I thought his actitude would change. He was very into me and I thought if I said it, it would make him fall even harder and I wasn't there yet. I could barely say the words! Lol so I don't know if he's feeling how I felt but it can definitely be a possibility. Maybe he likes how things are now, and feels like those three words might change the relationship into something deeper & he may not be ready for that.
All that matters is that he shows it. He's action speak louder. There's couples out there were they say "I love you" all the time. But don't show it. It's better to show.
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The thing that stood out too me is that he said his heart was hurt in the past. Have you two talked about that? 10 months does seem like a fair amount of time to say "I love you."
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Maybe he doesn't love you or maybe is afraid of commitment
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