So here's what I'm dealing with. I'm a good looking guy who works out, has an impressive if not we'll paying job and I've done extensive mental and emotional work on myself. When I'm around hot girls I don't hyper focus or eye fuck them, I engage them definitely sometimes the most of all the guys there sometimes minimally as I feel like it. Basically I just treat them like people. A lot of the times they continue talking with me and sometimes I even make them laugh. For some reason though I never seem to notice that spark of attraction, like they're eyeing me. I know what that looks like, it's happened before. Point is I think I've messed up. I may seem to genuinely interested in speaking to these women... like should I make it seem like I have an hidden motive so they notice? I thought you were supposed to act like you don't care... but not the stupid way where you ignore them, the real way where you are just talking to a person. Well I do that... in fact I kind of turn off my attractions and just make a mental note that I'm interested in her and should look for any signs of reciprocation. If I see any I turn em back on. Thing is, I feel like I'm too good at it. Like I have to try to look like I'm trying not to try... if that make sense. Otherwise perhaps they're just intimidated or... I don't know what even. I don't actively chase girls. I'm bad at that, I can't think quickly and tailor my words to a woman, if I just let the convo flow wherever then I'm able too but I've never been able to talk a woman into bed. Well long story short I'm 22, good looking and I haven't had sex in a year. Do I need more aggressive skirt chasing tactics. That's counter intuitive though. I see no women asking for that... ever but what they are asking for is getting me no results. Maybe I'm the guy they want to be more aggressive? Not sure though because during another dry spell I went aggressive and got a girl super attracted. But she thought I was a player and didn't trust me.
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Maybe you're handsome to yourself and to your friends, but girls don't see that?
Maybe girls always presume you're taken?
Maybe you give off the 'I'm not interested in you' vibe, 'but I like talking with you'... Also, it's entirely possible that after they start talking to you they decide you're not interesting/amusing/appealing to them enough and they are disinterested in being anything more than acquaintances...
If you really do look as great as you say, your personality and demeanor are the things that you should question > the factors that do not appeal to women you meet.1
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