Okay so I'm an introspective person and I've hit a point where the narrative I tell myself about my thought process is starting to seem like a cover for whats really happening. Help me out.
I used to be an ugly dude, now I'm quite handsome and I work out. My taste in girls has not changed much though. I've always been attracted to nerdy girls for a ton of personality reasons.
I thought this was just me not being a dick and realizing that my type is just an alt looking girl. The problem is, when I look back, I've only had crushes or had sex with girls who had crushes on me. In fact I've never successfully attracted a specific girl of my own volition. I've never pointed out one and then made her love me. Now a lot of people say you just have to see if she's interested and if not go away... but on the same token there are was to get a girl interested in you when you first meet. The girls I've had sex with... only 3, have literally thrown themselves at me. Not saying I've had sex with every girl who was interested but, I've never gone up to a woman and made something happen myself. Now I realize that when I look around I classify women weirdly, there's a level of attractive where I say damn she's so hot... and without being scared or anything i kind of dismiss her as being "too hot to waste all that effort on". basically i recognize that whatever type of person she is, god or bad, she's so used to guys hitting on her that it will take forever either way. the girls im interested in are more hidden gems, hot librarians, the girl with the nice ass that just wears sweats and glasses, the girl with the awesome rack who wears turtle necks. It's funny because low self esteem is still a turnoff to me but still...
Am I just lazy? Am I just going for low hanging fruit? Has my past conditioned me to write off hot girls who I secretly don't think I can get? Am I settling? Am I being irrational in assuming that more attractive girls will have way higher expectations for me and far fewer of themselves?
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Nothing wrong with your way of thinking. It's exactly thge same with me as well. SInce I'm average looking (or perhaps below aevrage), I don't really go for 'hot' women because they's be way above my league abnd reject me anyway, or they'll already be taken. And also, they usually have exceedingly high requirements. Not worth the time, efforts or energy, according to me.0
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